Intensives for Couples
Intensives for Couples are private meetings that may be structured like a mini “Getting the Love You Want Workshop”. They combine immersion in the Imago technique and relationship education with attention to your private issues. I also draw on my EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) and PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) expertise. The intensives can last anywhere from three or four hours in one day, to a full two day intensive, depending on the needs of the couple.
Couples Intensives are very helpful to deal with: being on the brink of separation or divorce, infidelity crises, high reactivity, an attachment injury/betrayal of some other kind, to address time sensitive major couple/family decisions, to manage a “deal breaker” situation, or a serious loss of connection. They are also so helpful for premarital couples, needing to reassure themselves and deal with important premarital questions and concerns. Finally, intensives are a wonderful way to help couples when they are weary of their “power struggles" and wish instead to recommit “with curiosity rather than conflict” to find new ways to connect with empathy, so that they may feel hope and vitality again.
Other issues that can be addressed are low energy/vitality in the marital bond, stagnation and emotional divorce, living parallel lives, and serious communication breakdowns.
In a Couples intensive, over a concentrated period of time, I help partners understand their cycle of disconnection, clear out the relational blocks, come to a place where forgiveness and healing can be experienced, and restore a sense of connection, hope and joy. If applicable, we also spend time addressing how to “re-romanticize” the couple’s life, to restore passion and fun.
When a couple has already made a decision to separate, a Couples Intensive can also be very helpful to facilitate the necessary goodbye work, an Imago “Goodbye process” that honors each partner and allows them to “consciously uncouple” in a respectful manner.
If you think a Couples Intensive might be something that your relationship could benefit from, I invite you to contact me directly to discuss more about how I might be able to help.
Additional Couples Services
" in love you have loosened yourself like sea water:
I can scarcely measure the
sky’s most spacious eyes
and I lean down to your mouth
to kiss the earth.”
~ Pablo Neruda